My godson is marrying outside the Church. I want to tell him why he must marry in the Church, but I don’t know how much pressure to apply. My friends suggest I insist he marry in the Church. What do I do?

The Church teaches that:

Only those marriages are valid which are contracted in the presence of the local ordinary or parish priest or of the priest or deacon delegated by either of them, who, in the presence of two witnesses, assists, in accordance however with the rules set out in the following canons. (CIC 1108 §1)

Of course you shouldn’t try to force the couple to marry in the Church. But that doesn’t mean that they shouldn’t marry in the Church, or that you should not make your position known. It means only that the responsibility to marry in the Church is theirs and not yours.

I encourage you to inform your godchild of his obligation to marry in the Church. Perhaps you can offer him some reading materials on the importance of being validly married. If he refuses to listen to you, then at least you did your best.